In many long-established congregations, several members of the governing board often define their primary responsibility as telling other people what they cannot do. An alternative to most either-or questions should be, "Why can't we do both?"
Another possibility is preface questions with, "Unless someone objects strongly, this is our plan." Yet another is not to ask for "no" votes. Finally, another method of moving ahead is to claim,"We cannot make an informed decision on this until we've had at least six month's experience with it."
Lyle Schaller, Choices for Churches